Grief, loss and bereavement





Each bereavement is unique and we can’t tell how long it will last, Bereavement affects people in different ways, There is no right or wrong way to feel, A counsellor can give you time and space to talk about your feelings.

Grief is a natural emotional process. Some of the intense feelings we can feel include:

  • Shock and difficulty believing our loved one has died
  • Abandonment and loneliness leaving it difficult to connect with other loved ones
  • Overwhelming sadness with lots of crying
  • Anger towards the person who has died or our closest loved ones or towards ourselves
  • Guilt about something we have said or done or something we didn’t say or do

These feelings are perfectly normal but sometimes we can become forgetful, lose concentration, have difficulty getting out of bed, neglect ourselves or family, can’t go on without the person, can’t face going into work. They shouldn’t last too long. If these signs last for a period of time that you feel is too long, or your family is worried about you call us for a no obligation chat.

Common responses to traumatic events include difficulty believing what has happened. In the days and weeks following the event, many people will continue to feel confused, distressed and fearful. It is important to understand that to think and feel this way immediately following trauma is a normal response to an abnormal situation.

The sorts of experiences we may have include:

Being on edge – On the lookout for danger, worrying that something awful may happen.

Being jumpy – easily startled by loud noises or sudden movements.

Difficulty sleeping – difficulty in getting to sleep, waking up during the night, having vivid dreams or nightmares, night sweats.

Intrusive memories – thoughts or images of the traumatic event ‘come out of the blue’ or are triggered by sounds, smells, touch, taste or sights somehow bring the event back.

Avoidance – avoiding places, people or associated connections attached to the incident. We can lose interest in activities and stop conversations associated with the trauma.

Feeling overwhelmed by intense emotions and bodily sensations that we feel we cannot handle.

Guilt and Shame – feelings about letting yourself or others down, about being in some way responsible, we survived when others didn’t.

Anxiety – Feelings of fearfulness, nervousness and sometimes panic.

Sadness – Feelings of low mood and tearfulness.

Anger – at the injustice or the person who is responsible.

Emotional numbness – feeling detached and unable to have feelings.

Loughborough Counselling offers a confidential space to explore better ways of coping and overcoming the affects. Call for a no obligation chat 07788 712776.

Depression is not exactly the same for any two people, but there are usually common features: Isolating, scary, lonely, debilitating. It can vary in severity from mild to severe. The good news is that most people recover and for some it can be a useful catalyst for change in their lives.

Our body – people can feel fatigued and slow down, do less. Depression may affect us by staying in bed or home. We become disinterested and have trouble concentrating. Sleep and eating patterns can change and we lose interest in our hobbies and activities.

Thoughts – become negative about ourselves, the future and the world around us. It can be like seeing life through gloomy spectacles. ‘Everything is hopeless, nothing can change’. ‘I’m useless, worthless’ ‘It’s all my fault’ ‘Everything goes wrong’.

Behaviour- because of the tiredness and negative thinking we tend to do less. We can begin to withdraw from what gave us pleasure. We might isolate ourselves from friends and family. Sometimes people can self-harm or have suicidal thoughts.

Depression is often a reactive response to major life changes and/or losses. A counsellor at Loughborough Counselling can offer a safe space for you to explore and discover how it doesn’t always have to be this way.

Call 07788 712776 for a confidential, no obligation chat.

It is human nature to be anxious and stressed sometimes. It can be a positive motivator to achieve our desires and keep us safe. However, many people are affected by some form of adrenaline rush. Short term anxiety can be healthy and energises us to cope with stressful situations.

Unwanted, negative, long term anxiety leads to excessive worry about a number of different events associated with heightened tension and can be debilitating.

Too much anxiety can lead to thoughts that something bad may happen and won’t be able to cope. We feel a physiological affect from the adrenaline of tense muscles, heart racing, fast and shallow breathing, shaky, light headed and sweaty. Our behaviour can change and we begin to avoid situations, make excuses, leave early or not attend an event at all. Such changes in our daily routine can make us feel out of control.

Loughborough Counselling offers ways of managing to control anxiety, reduce the symptoms, explore the causes and make sense of our behaviour. Speaking to a counsellor in a safe confidential environment, together, a person can find healthy ways to overcome and or manage our thoughts, emotions and behaviour. Call us in confidence, to find out how counselling may help you improve your wellbeing.

Close intimate relationships with attachment and bonding affect our wellbeing, self-worth, self-identity and sense of security. We offer a range of services to help you with your couple and family relationships, whether you’re young or old, whatever your sexual orientation, single or in a relationship.

Our relationships can have a negative effect on our wellbeing for many differing reasons. We may feel unsatisfied in a relationship. Affairs can influence our inability to trust another. Arguments and conflict can lead to exhaustion, lack of communication leads us to feel lonely and isolated. Sexual concerns can often create other concerns.

Relationship counselling can help you talk things through and move forward. Arguments and conflict are common in all kinds of relationships. But disagreements can be a way to resolve problems and feel closer to your partner. Not all relationships make it. Talking things over can help you come to a decision that is best for everyone involved. Affairs rarely have just one cause. Understanding the real reason an affair happened can help you both move forward. Talking about sex can be embarrassing. But talking is often the best thing you can do to improve your sex life.

Lots of people have an idea of what relationship counselling is and think that you only need counselling when things get really bad. But Loughborough Counselling, no matter what situation you face in your relationship offers an opportunity to explore and resolve difficulties. Even if your problems seem trivial, our service will be friendly and supportive.

Loughborough Counselling can offer a safe confidential place to help you find a way through any difficulties you may be facing in your relationship.

Have a no obligation chat to find out how relationship counselling may help you. Simply call 07788 712776

Our counsellors are registered members of the BACP and counsellors working with under 18 years of age hold current DBS certificates.

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